Whoever said dating in college was easy was truly and completely mistaken. Dating in college is like attempting to roller-skate on gravel: irritating, disorienting, and uncomfortable… and you’re probably drunk, so you fall a lot and make a fool of yourself. Not the best way to form a meaningful and loving relationship. Like all things, dating takes practice. You learn to power through the awkwardness and develop party tricks to impress your potential fling.
And while no one’s love life is perfect, it does seem that the college lifestyle does not facilitate easy bonding. For example, my dear friend Zoe has recently come to the exciting realization that she has a big crush on a good friend, Lloyd. True to form, I did a little impressively subtle digging and learned that he, too, is harboring feelings for her that are more than platonic. As my behavior had already been pretty juvenile, I decided to simply share my new-found information with Zoe and let her take the reigns on her romance.
So far, it has been unsuccessful. Zoe doesn’t want to have her first romantic moment with Lloyd under the influence or in a social setting, and Lloyd hasn’t yet made a move. And it prompts me to wonder: do we ruin our relationships by setting conditions on them?
In the case of Zoe and Lloyd, I think the problem is that they both want their romance to be perfect. It’s become a ridiculous ticking time bomb; they both know they like one another and are aware of the other’s feelings, yet no “moves” are being made. I can’t claim to be an expert on dating; indeed I’ve had my fair share of snags in the realm of romance, but I believe a potential romance can be squelched by too much pressure. We like other people so much that we want our relationship with them to run as smoothly as possible. But in college, our lives are hectic and we’re having fun and enjoying ourselves and we can’t expect our love lives to remain clean and simple. You have to embrace the madness because if you’re pursuing another person as a romantic prospect, your life will only get crazier. So if you like someone, call them. If you want to see someone, see them. And if you feel like kissing them, kiss them! We’re young, we’re having fun, and we don’t need to waste time playing texting games or waiting for a phone call. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my crazy life, it’s that I don’t need any more drama in it.
But when I’m feeling super down about the state (or lack thereof) of my romantic life, I always find it best to pamper myself extravagantly and with little regard to my bank account status. That’s why I’m so lucky the Campus Clipper offers great deals for students on tons of different health and beauty services. A new haircut at 50% off from Ibiza Salon will help give any guy or gal the confidence to get out there.
Olivia, Fordham University 2012
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