Posts Tagged ‘self-care’

Buy Yourself Flowers (Why You Should Plan Dates With Yourself)

Saturday, July 8th, 2017

You are your own main squeeze. Your relationship with yourself is the primary relationship you will have over the course of your life. People love to stress, “You must have a solid relationship with yourself to be capable of developing meaningful relationships with other other people.”And of course, they are right; you cannot pour from an empty cup. But that goes for everything else too, not just connections with other people. Your relationship with yourself informs how you tackle opportunities, handle challenges, approach work and play, and interpret the world you inhabit, because all of these things are tied to your sense of worth and self esteem. If that cup is empty, what will you be able to pour into your pursuits and interests? Your relationship with yourself is also the only one you are unequivocally guaranteed for your whole life, so you must enjoy spending time with yourself. If you can do that, you know someone will always be there to support and guide you when times are tough, and that someone is you. It means having someone to hang out with, whose company you enjoy. It means, in this big world where it’s easy to feel disconnected and alone—especially in New York—never being truly alone.

A few years ago I started buying myself flowers when I was feeling really down or something really big and exciting happened. I realized I didn’t need a guy to buy me flowers. I could go out to dinner alone. I could take walks by the river at sunset and sit in cafés and wander in bookstores. I could think of dates I’d want to go on and then just go do those things myself. And you know what happened? I got things done. I met some remarkable people. I grew exponentially. I flourished.

Self care, in the way we often talk about it, is a luxury. Spare cash for Lush bath bombs and spare time for people working 3 jobs—these are luxuries that many people don’t have. But dates don’t have to be constant, and planning them doesn’t have to mean breaking the bank. The goal is simply to create an experience now and then that makes you feel refreshed, loved, and worthy. So hang out with yourself; get to know yourself really, really freaking well. Show yourself some TLC. After all, you’re the person you’re stuck with till the end!

If you’re having trouble coming up with solo date ideas, here are some suggestions:

Make Yourself a Picnic to Enjoy by the Hudson River

Sunshine.  Soft grass. View of the water. Skyline. Benches. Need I say more?

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https://www.timeout.com

Take a Candlelit Bubble Bath

This is easier if you’re in an apartment, since dorms don’t allow incendiary objects. The Kmart at Astor Place has a selection of cheap candles. You can also find some pretty reasonable ones at Michaels, or if you’re feeling a tad more extravagant, check out the yummy smells at one the many Ricky’s NYC stores. If you’re in a dorm, the right playlist will soothe your ears and help create the mood.

Smell the Flowers… Or Perfume
Speaking of smells, here’s one of my favorite pick-me-ups for when I’m down. Grab some fresh coffee beans (not required, but they add a nice touch), and head to Sephora. Indulge in smelling all the glorious scents, and take a whiff of the coffee beans between smells to clear your olfactory palate.

Visit the Botanical Garden at Prospect Heights

Admission is typically $15, but if you bring your ID it’s only $8 for students. The Brooklyn Botanic Garden website has a number of resources and information on events and activities, including a list of what is currently in bloom: https://www.bbg.org/bloom

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https://www.nycgo.com/

Check Out a Museum

When you’re by yourself, you can stay for as long as you want or leave as soon as your feet get tired. No need to try and impress anyone with interpretations of artwork. Oh, and for students, they’re nearly all free. Hello Whitney, MoMA, and Met, to name a few.

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http://whitney.org/

Take in a Literary Reading

There are countless places in NYC to hear writers share their work. Check out KGB Bar in the East Village for a reading! Monday is poetry night, and if fiction is more your speed, stop in on a Sunday. See you there!

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By Sofia Lerner

Sofia Lerner is a Campus Clipper publishing intern who is studying English as a senior at NYU. Passionate about literature, dance, and wellness, Sofia aspires to help the arts thrive and help others pursue healthy lifestyles. For over 20 years, the Campus Clipper has been offering awesome student discounts in NYC,  from the East Side to Greenwich Village. Along with inspiration, the company offers students a special coupon booklet and the Official Student Guide, which encourage them to discover new places in the city and save money on food, clothing and services. 

At the Campus Clipper, not only do we help our interns learn new skills, make money, and create wonderful e-books, we give them a platform to teach others. Check our website for more student savings and watch our YouTube video showing off some of New York City’s finest students during the Welcome Week of 2015.


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How Other People Can Help You Love Yourself

Friday, May 12th, 2017

“The world reflects back to you how much you value yourself”

-Danielle LaPorte

I’ve been talking so much about self-love for the past few months and how important it is to show ourselves love. But sometimes it is hard to get yourself to do what is best for you. Some people find it difficult to be what might be considered “selfish” and others can’t find the time to do so. Whatver the reason, I think I’ve neglected to really discuss how important and necessary it is to have other people in our lives so that they can help us love ourselves.

‘What does she mean?’ you may be thinking to yourself.

Well, for example, one of my roommates and I have been roommates since sophomore year of college and now we’re each one of the others’ best friends. That said, as it turns out, we have each also come to calling the other our personal “life coach.” Now, I’ll admit, I think she is likely a better life-coach to me than I am to her often times (it’s hard, okay?), but we are often turning to each other for help through life’s challenges.

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Image Credit: http://www.essay.ws/essay-on-whistle-blowing-the-environment/

As graduation approaches, we’re stressed about school, finding jobs, getting an apartment, moving into said apartment, and still the other usual stressors like boys and money *eye roll*. So, it goes without saying that we’re always relating to each other regarding life’s difficulties and trying our best to provide the other with words of encouragement, songs of encouragement, positive energy, mood-boosting foods like cupcakes, calmness when the other is overstressing, a friend to walk the city with, and more. She keeps me on track, or tries to at the very least, and I try to do the same for her. When we can’t see the fault in our own actions, point of view, or opinion, the other is often there to cue us in on the opposing side of it all. I would’ve been a wreck without her these past few years!

Today we were out and about in NYC and decided to check out this sculpture in Rockefeller Center in order to distract ourselves from all the other crazy stuff going on-we took time to treat ourselves right on this beautiful day (and it was free)!

I think it is more than safe to say that we, as people, tend to easily place way too much weight on our own shoulders. It is also safe to say that this can create several different problems. Taking on too much keeps us from giving one task or person our undivided attention, which would allow us to better accomplish our goal at the time. It makes it easier to make mistakes, it draws from our experiences, it detracts from full satisfaction, and it makes it more difficult to self-love.

you can't carry the world on your shoulders Image Credit: https://mattbowsher.wordpress.com/2013/11/02/leadership-in-adult-social-care-beyond-the-brontosaurus/

Image Credit: https://mattbowsher.wordpress.com/2013/11/02/leadership-in-adult-social-care-beyond-the-brontosaurus/

These are all reasons that sometimes we need someone else to turn to. Whether that means you are delegating some of your load to someone else therefore lightening your own or whether someone else is just there to encourage you or do something fun with you when you need it most. Having a friend, family member, or even colleague by your side can make a tremendous difference in your self-care, self-compassion, self-confidence, self-love, and overall happiness and satisfaction. So let others help you love yourself, already!!

By Chanelle Surphlis


Chanelle Surphlis is a Campus Clipper publishing intern, who is graduating from FIT this May. Passionate about giving back and pursuing volunteer opportunities, Chanelle aspires to work for a fashion or beauty company that includes philanthropy in its core values. If you like Chanelle’s writing, check out her blogs here and here. We have the most talented interns ever and we’re so proud of them! For over 20 years, the Campus Clipper has been offering awesome student discounts in NYC,  from the East Side to Greenwich Village. Along with inspiration, the company offers students a special coupon booklet and the Official Student Guide, which encourage them to discover new places in the city and save money on food, clothing and services.  

At the Campus Clipper, not only do we help our interns learn new skills, make money, and create wonderful e-books, we give them a platform to teach others. Check our website for more student savings and watch our YouTube video showing off some of New York City’s finest students during the Welcome Week of 2015.

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